Thursday, February 10, 2011

Tales of Change

Ok peeps, my hubby has created my new and improved blog!!! 

Here is the link:

http://talesofamarriedsinglemom.wordpress.com/

You can click on the link and it will make you create a wordpress account (you only have to do this once) SORRY.

Then you can email me your username and I can add you to the blog.

Wednesday, February 9, 2011

Tales of cookies

Holy crap, 115 boxes of girl scout cookies are in my kitchen.  My kids came home from school yesterday and were in heaven, until I broke the news to them that they were NOT all for our consumption.  However, we all hopped in the car and had fun going around to the neighbors who ordered.  My daisy scout wore her little vest and got out all by herself and delivered her cookies and collected her money. Figured it would be nice of her to be somewhat involved in the whole process.

Anywho... lots to say but no time.  Oh, I know. I think my blog is going to be moving to a new site.  My hubby was never to thrilled that I signed up on a google blog site (I of course had no earthly idea, I just did it).  So, I am likely to move to a more hubby approved blog site.  Not sure what that will be, but he will set it all up.  Remember I am slightly technologically retarded. The caveat is that it will not be open to the general public. Every blog site is different, so not sure how my new one will work.  Look for an email about it in the next few days, as you may need to have a password to enter.   And by the next few days, I mean it could be a week because I am lazy and have lots of other things to do, but am moving towards doing that.

On to my day!  Hope yours is a good one!

Monday, February 7, 2011

Tales of hope

I am hoping and praying that my baby girl isn't coming down with the flu too.  She felt quite warm this afternoon and her eyes looked so glossy.  Ugh.  Please tamiflu do your thing!!!!!!!!!!!! 

So was so freakin funny the other day when we were out to lunch.  Totally forgot so have to share now.  As always, she likes to eat whatever I am eating.  Unfortunately, with all her tummy woes, I typically cannot share with her, so I usually lie and say its too hot or too spicy. Now that she is understanding more of her allergies, I can get away with saying it has cheese in it or whatever.  So, we were at Panera and she asked me for some of my soup (soup, did you know I like soup??) and so I leaned over and gave her a spoonful.  She swallowed it, smiled and said, "Good sharing mommy".  It was hilarious.  At least to me. Okay, maybe you had to be there. She is just so flippin funny, I really can't stand it.

Oopps.. gotta run. Phineaus and Ferb just ended.. time to tuck the final child into bed.  Oh, and you guessed it, I am shortly to follow.

Tales of Yay, It's finally over!!

While I absolutely loved the half time show (as did my 7 1/2 year old who said The Black Eyed Peas are his fav band), that is about the only part of the game I watched and I am sooooooooooooooooo glad football season has finally come to an end! So not into it.  Don't care if I am the only one on the planet not into it, I just am not.  The only reason why I like the Super Bowl is because you get to eat a lot of crap for the sake of game watching, and since I had to cancel all our weekend plans, the crap eating wasn't as good as it could have been anyhow. I am happy that Green Bay won because that if who my son wanted to win since his BFF (do boys have BFFs?) wanted to win.

My daughter (the sick one) is now feeling better!  Thank goodness.  Sent her to school today, she was bouncing off the walls yesterday and crying that she couldn't go to religious school. My son on the other hand would have switched places with her in a heart beat- minus the puking episodes.  But, the over protective mom that I am and always will be so there, is probably going to pick her up from school early today. Don't think she needs a whole 8 hours out of the house on her first day out of the house since Thurs. And, no girl scouts this evening.  But, don't you worry, I am picking up all the cookies tomorrow night!!  So expect an email from me about delivery!!

Well, I went to school this morn, did my help in the class, mall walked and now it is 11:04 and I have showered and successfully gotten back into my jammies.  Too freakin cold out.  Sheesh.. when is the summer going to arrive.  Okay, maybe just the Spring.  I could use some warmth, but not dreadful heat.

What else?   Hubby MIA this week and next. Yay fun for me.  I should warn my children now that I will likely be losing my patience more frequently and yelling louder over the next two weeks.  Guess it's not a bad thing to prepare them for it.

Ta ta for now.

Friday, February 4, 2011

Tales of the flu

Well, my little darling girl woke up at 4 AM with 103.2. Obviously she was not going to school, but I made a quick decision to take her to the doctor since it is Friday (like I mentioned yesterday). I thought for sure she had strep.  High fever, cough, belly hurting on and off.  And she was a wreck this morning.  Freezing cold, no appetite...

So, after we waited 30 minutes to see our doc (who we love), she ruled out strep or pnemonia.  She thought that her cough and drippy nose was totally unrelated to the fever.  So, she prescribed antibiotics for her nose situation because it was likley bacterial. Moving on, she causally mentioned that we could swab her for the flu, just to rule it out.  I said ok, even though it is slightly invasive.

She held her feet and I held her arms and she tried (unsuccessfully) to get a swab from her nose.  My daughter was SCREAMING and FLAILING and SOBBING uncontrollably.  I figured, if we were getting an antibiotic anyhow, whats the point in forcing her to get a swab taken?  BUT, the doc said the point is to know if she has the flu or not in an effort to be able to treat my other two children before they may catch it.  Okay, that seemed like a good enough reason.  Enter nurse as 3rd set of arms to hold her down and just imagine a not pretty site.  Poor babygirl.

Since the swab usually takes 10 minutes to read, I suggested she just write out all the prescriptions like if it were positive and to call me and tell me whether or not to fill them.  My daughter (and I) were more than ready to get home after that drama and being there for an hour at that point. She was still shaking. Ugh.
But, by the time she went to write the scripts, she came back saying it was a strong positive already and that she definitely has the flu.  Boooo. Booooooo.  Mommy no like.  This is a first in our household.  And hopefully a last.  And no, my kids did not get a flu shot/mist this year.  I think I thought about it for a moment, but the moment fleeted by and it never re entered my mind.  I guess with no insane media converage about how every place is "running out" of the shot, I just blanked on it.   So, I suppose it is my fault that she caught the flu.

I dropped her off at home with my hubby and baby girl and spent the next few hours waiting for prescriptions for all of us (please god let them work), getting her a requested lunch that she had two bites of, getting her a requested ice cream that she ate 2 bites of, and picking up my oldest from school an hour early to get the meds in him as quickly as possible... all in freezing cold rain. 

I was warned that the tamiflu can cause vomitting. But no one in my house is really a vomitter so I excused that nonsense information out of my brain.  And now, I am sitting down at the computer for the first time today (been up since 4 AM).  I just finished giving said sick child a bath because she just puked for the 2nd time all over herself, the bathroom floor, the bathroom walls, and me. Nice.  Perhaps the cure is worse than the illness?  Who knows.  I will tell you that I am NOT a fan of pukers, puking, any of it.  And the poor girl was crying that she was so scared.  So sucky.  Guess I am really not mom of the year now for forgetting (half accidental half on purpose) their flu shots.

All I know is that I will be home ALL WEEKEND LONG if anyone needs me. (Although, I will NOT be on my computer).  I have cancelled all our weekend plans.  That's okay, its cold and crappy out anyhow. Thank goodness my hubby is in town.

Wish me luck. Hope you have a better weekend than I am going to have. See you Monday!

Thursday, February 3, 2011

Tales of typical

Why is it that kids always get sick right before the weekend??  As I mentioned earlier in the week, I think my mid is fighting some sort of body illness.  She just hasn't been herself, coughing, not sleeping great and flushed. It was borderline whether or not I was sending her to school today, but she didn't have a fever and is star of the week so begged me not to keep her home.  I even went in to have lunch with her (first time this year) to check on her and she seemed fine, but this afternoon and evening she went downhill fast.  What is it about the weekend?  I can almost taste Friday it is so close, but I will likely be stuck here with her.... and the little miss.. fun, right?

Anyway, she vegged out much of the afternoon and then cried during dinner because I was going out for dinner.  She never gets upset when I leave, so I can really tell something is up.  She made me promise I would be home in time to tuck her in, which shortened my evening plans, but I wanted to be back in time.  HOWEVER, my hubby texted me at 6:10 saying she hardly ate dinner and requested to get in her jammies and go to bed.  She was asleep before 6:30.  Oy, we shall see.  I would love to be pleasantly surprised in the AM with her being chipper, healthy and ready for school, but I honestly don't see that in her future.  I forsee the typical Friday borderline illness and me debating whether or not I should drag her (with little sis in tow) to the pediatrician tomorrow before the weekend since they are closed.  Typical. Gotta love it.

Wednesday, February 2, 2011

Tales of TV

Those of you who know me know that I am not a TV watcher.  Yes, I'll watch the occasional teeny bopper show, but as far as having the tube on... I strongly dislike it.  I will list my reasons why:

1.  I have enough background noise in my house that when it is actually silent, I want it to remain that way for as long as possible.

2.  I do not like getting sucked into a movie or show at night and then stay up too late to watch it and then regret it in the AM because it is 5:30 and I didn't get my 8 hour minimun of beauty sleep.

3.  I know there are other reasons but I cannot think of them right this second. Maybe I'll get back to you on that.

Anyway, I do have to say I am really liking the new Idol.  Love Steven Tyler (in general) and think JLo is cute on the show too. Capturing my attention, but will DVR the 2 hour episodes.. no WAY I can watch all that at once.   So, I will be going to watch that in a few moments.

Gosh, I had a few thoughts today that I wanted to jot down here, but I am just fried and cannot concentrate.  Hubby just got home from FL.  Gonna run.  Hopefully tomorrow my brain will be turned to the ON mode.

Tales of a bubble

Ahh.. almost half way through the week!! I can see the light to Friday. Hubby MIA today, which will make for a long day... but kids are busy after school so hopefully today won't drag on toooooooooooo looooooong.

I have had this very good friend since my middle was a baby.  Good friend in the sense that we have a lot in common, most of our kids are the same age, and we care a lot about it each other.  Trouble is, we never get to see one another.  We both have crazy busy lives juggling 3 kids and everything else life throws at you. Sometimes we will go weeks without even sending an email.. but the good thing is I don't worry about our friendship, and neither does she. When we do get the chance to chat or email or heaven forbid get together, it's like no time has past.  We have no expectations of each other and it is so refreshing.  We both admit to constantly thinking about each other, but most of the time that is all we have time to do.. is think about calling or think about getting together.

But, in a lot of ways we are very different.  (or were.. which is the point of this blog).  I am the one always throwing parties, love to get people together, have a good time, always connected.  She, is a home body (is that one word or two??), not extremely social, just content being with her family.    Anyway, we had some email interaction this week and she, I guess and me too have come to the realization that I am turning into her!!!!  Which is surprising, but true.  Since I had my baby, and more so in the past year, I have noticed myself becoming more of an introvert.  I thought maybe I was going through a selfish phase, but what is selfish about doing things for and with your family, first and foremost.  What is selfish about needing quiet time and not always being a social butterfly?  Since that unfortunate experience I wrote about in one of my first blogs (parting with a close friend from years ago) I have changed A LOT. Perhaps I have her to thank, in a weird way, for pushing me to grow and change.. for the better.  I don't even think she would recognize my personality nowadays.  Which is for better and for worse. I have changed in a lot of good ways, but I have also become very guarded and protective of myself.  I have learned a lot about what I want out of friends, what I can give and what I can take, and what is important and what really isn't. Its funny how viewpoints can change as life evolves.  For example, it is extremely important for us to have family dinner with my mom once a week.  I used to make plans with different families with kids on Sunday nights for dinner because it was fun for the kids to get together with their friends, but now, I want to teach my kids that no one comes before family.  I remember dinners with my grandparents growing up, and want my children to as well.

Anyway, with some email conversation back and forth with this friend,  she asked me, isn't it nice to live without drama and world expectations??  I never used to understand why she was so withdrawn from the world so to speak, and now I really get it.  I get why she has been living this way for years.   When you are in a "bubble", which is where I would ideally LOVE to go live, you free yourself from all the things that are really not essential to your life.  And so I guess I am moving in that direction.  Essential are family problems, essential are kids school nonsense, essential are things that need to be taken care of now, in this very moment.  So, excuse me while I go through this stage in my life of so called "selfishness". Remember, it has nothing to do with YOU, and everything to do with ME.

Oh, and you'll be the first to know if and when I decide to emerge from my bubble.... but umm, don't hold your breath!

Tuesday, February 1, 2011

Tales of love.. con't

Ok, so I am back.  Baby girl napping, laundry is folded and I have a few moments to type.

So, my lips are in constant dryness this time of year.  I feel like I am non stop applying chap stick, or thinking about applying chap stick.  Weird, right?  But now, me 2 year old keeps asking me for chap stick too. Monkey see, Monkey do- right?

This morn was a bit of a rush around. Had to be out the door at 8 again to meet a friend for coffee. Some days its so hard for me to get it all together to plan to be out of the house by 8 AM til 1. Guess I am more slow moving then I used to be.  Then I went directly to the mall to do my ritual winter routine of walking around with all the 80 year olds.  I actually brought my purse in this time because I had planned to stay for shopping and lunch. Stopped by the market on the way home. Now it is 1:30 PM.  I have showered and put my jammies back on.  I am in for the day. Too cold to walk to the bus stop later, so I will drive there and no one will see my jammies. 

Oh, for those of you who ordered girl scout cookies from me- I will be getting them next week.  Seriously, I cannot believe it is February already.  Just got an email from our cookie coordinator (what a fun job that must be) and we are picking up our boxes on Tuesday night.  So, expect an email from me next week about when and how I can deliver to you.   Yummo- I can taste mine already!!!

I have been super trying to spend more time with my kids individually. Clearly the baby gets enough mommy time, but the older two.. as you know, not so much.  And my oldest doesn't really need much from me.  Hugs and kisses and cuddling at night and he is good.  But middle princess needs me.  And I need her.   Shit, the phone just rang and I got into a 5 min conversation with a friend and totally lost where I was going with this.  UGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG. brain functioning is not working.

OH YEAH!!!  Yay, I am not that stupid afterall.  I remembered. So,  I have to say that my life is totally different when my hubby is in town.  Like last night, for example.  I got to go into her room, ALONE, yes, alone.. no cat running around jumping on us, no baby girl wanting to get on her bed and read with us. Nothing. No one. Just her and me. And it was so pleasant.  I loved it.  I never take for granted the nights that I have my hubby to help me with bedtime routine, but last night for some reason I specifically noticed it, and even mentioned it to him.  I love being able to tuck all three of them in calmly and not rushing from one closed bedroom door into the other room and then to the 3rd room.  I am only one person and it is so draining on me sometimes.  Like I seriously dread it when he is gone.  Some nights I am just so exhausted by 6 PM that I really start to wonder who is going to get my children settled in bed when all I want to do is crawl under the covers myself.

Anyway, don't pity me... just saying how I am realizing that I have it good this week with my hubby home.

Opps, enter so called friend who just distracted me on the phone.  She is now standing next to me in my kitchen.  Gotta run.

Tales of love

I think I am in love with chap stick.   Can we talk about this later?  Have to run out the door.. just food for thought for you.

Monday, January 31, 2011

Tales of Late

Yes, I know I'm late.  Days late.  Sorry, busy weekend. I want to start this blog off sharing with you my 3rd and last New Years Resolution. I only make them in the month of January, after that they can't be considered "New Years Resolutions".. ok, anyway.  SO, I have decided that during the weekends, my hubby and I (I only have control over myself but am trying to have this a dual resolution) are no longer going to be hooked up to technology.  No computers, no texting, no surfing the web. Nada.  None of it.. okay with a few exceptions.. like if I am making plans with someone and need to text or email quickly. Or checking directions up on the web or hours of a restaurant to something quick like that.  The point is that I no longer want to be sitting on the computer surfing around and wasting precious time that I could be spending with my family.  Nor do I think it is a good message to send to them.  If they see us always "plugged in" they will want to be too.  Not gonna happen anymore.  So, keep this in mind if you are wondering why I am not blogging on the weekends etc... The past two weekends were great!  So refreshing to not feel like I am always "checking" something.   I want to live in the moment with my babies.  They are growing by leaps and bounds and I just feel like I am missing out by sitting here glued to the computer or my phone when they are around on the weekends and afternoons after school.  I've always said that family is the most important thing to me in the world, and it is.  I am just learning new ways to show it.

What else.. I finished the book.  It was a great read.  There is a wait list for it now, but let me know if you want to borrow it too. My good friend reading it now has two girls as well and is really enjoying it too.  It's mostly stuff I already know about, but it's always reasurring to read it in print and know that others are thinking and feeling the same thing you are.

My mid is star of the week this week at school.  She was soooo excited this AM getting ready for school and rattling off all the fun things she gets to do ALL WEEK.  Line leader, teacher helper, blah blah blah.  She also begged me to let her buy school lunch this week.  I have yet to put money on her account.  Her brother bought a lot in Kindergarten... I had just given birth to the little miss and was dealing with all that comes with the joys of a newborn.. therefore, he ate a lot of school lunches. But, he didn't really love it and I didn't really love it for him and so last year I don't even know if he bought at all and this year none.  Some days may be ok, but seriously, bread sticks for lunch?  or nachos.. barf.  no thank you.

Speaking of food, I spent the day yesterday with a friend who only purchases all natural, preservative free, blah blah blah foods.  Always something I have aspired to do.  Always something I am too lazy to do.  But, we did get into talking about the effects of food coloring on childrens bodies and behavior.  Something in that conversation struck me and I think I may try it out.  I can hear many of my friends LOLing because its so something I would never do and probably can't handle, but if its for the good of my kids and will make them listen better (maybe???)  its worth a try.  We'll see, I am just thinking about it.  Will keep you posted.

Lots more to talk about, but little miss needs to go potty and down for her nap.  So, this is it for now.

Friday, January 28, 2011

Tales of Friday

Oh so happy Friday is here.  It has been such a busy week that I hope this weekend bring in some downtime. I was so wrapped up in that book yesterday that I forgot to mention that my little teeny girl started ballet class this week.  Really, I could have vomitted it was so darn adorable.  And she ate it up.  Loved it.  Walked right in like she owned the place and had a ball.  It was her first class interaction without me going in with her, and she could have cared less.  There were a few other mommies there that had crying little ones, and I felt terrible for them because that was me with my oldest daughter.  Holy toledo. I could not even take her.  My super mom had to take her weekly because she just was so upset.  Still not sure what she was so scared of back then, but I have to say, although I did empathize with those mommies the other day, I secretly was SO HAPPY it was not my little ballerina.

Last night I went to our local middle school open house.  I know, I only have an almost 3rd grader, but a friend of mine whose son is started middle next year asked me to go with her because her hubby was MIA and she wanted a second opinion.  Anyhow, I am SO not ready for that.  Like so so so not ready. I hope time will slow down a bit because I'd like to not think about middle school for a long long time.  All I know is that time of life, like agewise, is horrible. Awkward. Blah.  I just want to live in a giant bubble with my kids and protect them from all things harmful, hurtful or just plain annoying to deal with. Anyone else feel that way?

This week has been a bit stressful due to some school issues with one of my big kids.  Aside from my usual time spent volunteering this week.  I have been in and out of communication with teachers, guidance counselor, etc...  I know in the end I am doing the right thing by taking control of a situation that could get much worse, but it still sucks going through it and it kills me to the core when any one of my children are hurting or sad or going through something.  The one positive is that I have been so sick to my stomach that I can hardly eat... except for the giant cookie I devoured yesterday from Panera. It's so mind consuming for me that I practically cannot think about or deal with anything else until it is fixed... or on the road to fixing.

Enough of that.  Hmmm.. not much else to report.  Was a pretty good week, aside from the school drama.  Looking forward to catching up with an old friend today. Another married single mommy.  It's always nice to know that I am not alone.

Thursday, January 27, 2011

Tales of reading

Sorry to disappoint, but I am sucked into a book and therefore all my free time is being spent reading it.  And my not "free" time too.  Poor baby girl wanted me to play puzzles with her again for the 8th time yesterday and I practically begged her to watch Mickey Mouse so I could keep reading my book.  Mom of the year right here people.

Anyway, it's called "Cinderella ate my daughter" and its all about how our society treats girls, or daughters most specifically. How what we do with and buy for our little girls can affect their entire life... LOL.. very interesting reading. Very eye opening. Will it change the way I spoil my little girls, likely not.  But, it's food for thought.. and it reminds me that if I feel like a bad mom for buying X or letting them watch Y, at least I am not spending thousands upon thousands of dollars dolling them up and entering my 5 and 2 year old girls into beauty paegants.  Always remember, no matter what you choose to do, there is always some MUCH crazier out there doing MUCH worse things to their children.  Just gotta laugh about it.

P.S.  I loved the American Girl store almost as much at my daughter did!!! I said almost, or maybe more.. I'll never tell.

Tuesday, January 25, 2011

Tales of today

Phew.. it was a long ass day.  I had a giant headache all AM and finally took some Motrin after lunch and I love that stuff.

I was up and out the door at 8, as usual.. but had a great power walk at the mall.  What a fab way to start the day!!  Dear Winter, please hurry up and go away so I do not have to drive up to the mall every time I want to exercise. Love, me.  

Ran a bunch of errands, you know, the typical Tuesday for me. Its my only day of the week that I am not volunteering at school. Big kids came home before the little princessa woke up from her beauty sleep, so thats always a bit tricky for me.  I prefer to have alone time with her during her wake up/cranky period, but I suppose I shouldn't be complaining since she had an amazing nap.  Kinda hard to do math homework with her on my hip, but I managed.

What else, hmmmmm.. not much. My hubby is actually home, so he got to take our son to basketball practice tonight!  Yippy! You know what that means.. yep, I am already in my jammies.  Laying in bed with my tot and cat..watching Mickey Mouse.  Who the heck knows when she will go to bed after that power freakin nap.  Middle is sound asleep.  That girl plays hard from the second she wakes up in the morning til the instant her head hits the pillow.  Gosh, must be nice to be a kid with tons of energy. 

This is boring me, so it must be boring you.  Unfortunately I have nothing exciting to say at this moment.  I'll try harder next blog. 

Oh, almost forgot.  Happy Birthday to my father in law!  Hope its a great year ahead.

Sunday, January 23, 2011

Tales of football

Oh how I can't wait until next weekend is over and football season is done. Just walked in from seeing a movie with some friends (another good one.... "No strings attached").. okay, it was a teensy bit vulgar at times and most unexpectedly, but I love Asthon Kutcher and Natalie Portman and thought it was super cute. BUT, then I come home and get into bed and hubby has the football game on. Ugg.. not a fan. College football I will deal with because I am a Gator by blood, or whatever, but NFL does nothing for me.  Hurry up Super Bowl, come and be done with.

Tales of a road trip

What a blast!  Took the kiddos to Atlanta  (well, the big kiddos) for 2 days since school was out on Friday.  I think a quick 2 day stint away from home is a perfect way to slip in a vacay, not break the bank, and get rejuvinated.   So, as I mentioned last week, I took my special angel to the AG store.  Holy moley! I have never experienced anything quite like it.  That store had it all.  It is truly a little girls dream (well, a little girl who is into dolls and dress up and girly things).  I have to say, I wasn't sure what to expect, and we both were a tad bit overwhelmed when we walked in, but once we looked around and settled in it was such a sweet time for us. Many of you (or your kids) are not into the girly dolly thing, so I won't describe all the deets, but we did have lunch together in their cafe and it was so adorable.  Really.  They brought over a high chair for Ella (one of my daughters AG dolls) and she sat right next to us at the table.  Weird, for me, awesome for my angel.  Then the waitress brought over a teeny tiny cup and saucer to the table and actually filled it with water for Ella.  She even went so far to let us know to tell her if Ella needed a refill.  Again, weird for me, but heaven for you know who.  I mean, she was just so over the moon.  She couldn't stop looking around at everyone else and seeing what was going on.  From quiet lunches to birthday celebrations, they really have it down pat there. I mean they truly know how to make your girl (like my real daughter) feel so special.  It was superb!

After that it was time to go to an indoor go karting place for the boys!  Not sure who enjoyed it more, the dads or the kids.  We met up with our friends there and had great fun.  My friend and I were obsessed with playing the video game Deal or no Deal to try to win tix for our kids.  Can u imagine how excited we really would have been if it were for real money.   After that, we headed to our fav pizza joint for din.

Yesterday, kids enjoyed a very busy morning at the World of Coke and the Georgia Aquarium.  Those whales and sea creatures really fascinate me.  I love watching them swim so gracefully through the water.

And..... now we are back.  Ready and refreshed for a brand new week!  Had to bring back something special for my little tot since she got left back for the trip.  While I felt badly about leaving her, it would have been way to difficult to have her with us.  Something special about just spending time focusing on the big two, which I rarely get to do.   Anyway, she LOVED her present.. it was a combo we're sorry we left you and we are so proud of you for ... oh yeah, I am not mentioning what I am so proud of her for on here because it will likely jinx me once again... so you can use your imagination there.

A GIANT thank you to my mom for bonding with my baby girl this weekend.  I think she was easier for you than our kitty cat. He is one high maintenance dude.  And thanks to our fun friends for spending the weekend with us!  Next stop... Litchfield beach.  Can't wait for the next adventure.. although we are bringing the tinest one with us then.....

Ok, must go.. off to help celebrate a very special 2 year old birthday today! Life is just so much fun!

Thursday, January 20, 2011

Tales of girlfriends

I got this email from my sis in law and hardly ever to email fwds but I loved this one, and am too lazy right now to write a real blog, so wanted to post it.  Please read it, as I feel it is so true.  I have very few girlfriends who I love and trust with all of my heart, but it is true that these relationships are good for your health and so important to have!  To my girls, you know who you are.. this is for you!

 They Teach It at Stanford

"I  just finished taking an evening class at Stanford. The last lecture was on the  mind-body connection - the relationship between stress and disease. The speaker  (head of psychiatry at Stanford) said, among other things, that one of the best  things that a man could do for his health is to be married to a woman, whereas for a woman,  one of the best things she could do for her health was to nurture her relationships with her girlfriends.

At first everyone laughed, but  he was serious.

Women connect with each other differently and provide  support systems that help each other to deal with stress and difficult  life experiences. Physically this quality "girlfriend time" helps us to create more serotonin - a neurotransmitter that helps combat depression and can create  a general feeling of well being. Women share feelings whereas men often form relationships around activities. They rarely sit down with a buddy and talk  about how they feel about certain things or how their personal lives are going.  Jobs? Yes.Sports? Yes. Cars? Yes. Fishing, hunting, golf?  Yes.  But  their feelings? Rarely.

Women do it all of the time.  We share from our souls with our sisters/mothers, and evidently that is very good for our health.  He said that spending time with a friend is just as important to our general health as jogging or working out at a gym.

There's a  tendency to think that when we are "exercising" we are doing something good for our bodies, but when we are hanging out with friends,  we are wasting our time and should be more productively engaged - not true.  In fact, he said that failure to create and maintain quality personal relationships with other humans is as dangerous to our physical health as smoking!

So every time you hang out to schmooze with a gal pal,  just pat yourself on the back and congratulate yourself for doing something good for your health!  We are indeed very, very  lucky.  Sooooo let's toast to our friendship with our girlfriends. Evidently it's very good for our health."

tales of impatience

Son overslept today which always leads to a rushing around more then the norm.  had to take a shower this AM becuz I have that yay fun dr appt today. You know the one us women dread about on a yearly basis. Speaking of, I am currently still waiting for my 9:30 appt.  Of course I didn't eat breakfast cuz then I would weigh soooooo much more..lol so I am now lying in my robe thing with my feet up waiting.... And getting impatient.  Ugh.. I hate paying a sitter to sit in the dr office for an hour. They should deduct what I have to pay her from my...... Well nothing since my insurance covers it all. Wish me luck during this oh so fun experience ... I know u r jealous

Tuesday, January 18, 2011

Tales of Fine

My almost 2 1/2 year old sweet little baby girl has found a new favorite thing to say to me.  Whenever I ask her to do something (or not to do something, which is probably more often) she responds with one of two things:

Exhibit A:  "Ok, fine"

Exhibit B:  "Fine, fine fine"

Again, I have a 2 year old who is on the verge of 12.  God help me!

Also, a few funny things she is saying, because she actually thinks she is 12 and repeats everything she hears.

1.  I am trying to teach her that her birthday is August 22nd.  Ok, so she takes that to mean just the 22nd.  Fine, but this week she has taken it to a whole new level.. a funnier one.  When I ask her when her bday is she say "two seconds".. I guess that is what she thinks I am saying when I say twenty second.  Either that, or she really wants her bday to be in two seconds.  Regardless, pretty funny.

2.  Another fan fav, from one of my close friends... The other day she kept saying "pony tails", or at least that is what I thought I heard her saying over and over.  So I went upstairs, go two hair bands and came down to put her hair up. As I start, she is wagging her hands at me saying, "no, I said pony tails".  Well, I don't know about you but I was super confused.  And she was getting upset.  This was a day trapped at home and potty training.  Anyway, after another few hand waggings at me and her saying "PO-NE TAILS".. I finally realized that she wanted me to PAINT HER NAILS.   Tomato, to-maah-to.. I guess its all the same, right?

Monday, January 17, 2011

Tales of strange feelings

I wouldn't say that I actually was crying, but I had a sad pit in my stomach this afternoon when my kids were watching last nights Series Finale of Hannah Montana that we DVRed for them.  I don't know what it is about the situation that made me sad-ish, but I did feel a bit strange about the whole thing. 

1.  My mid loves her, loves her movie, songs and loves her shows
2.  Until recent tabloid press, I too have secretly enjoyed watching her show with my kids
3.  Something about some of her lyrics always get to me. This one in particular

So I’m moving on
Letting go
Holding on to tomorrow
I’ve always got the memories while I’m finding out who I’m gonna be
We might be apart but I hope you always know
You’ll be with me wherever I go
Wherever I go

4.  I am clearly just a big ole mush sometimes.

Ok, it is definitely not like how I felt during the last episode of 90210 (the real one, not the current one), but whatever. We have all faced life changes and moving and leaving friends and blah blah blah so I know you too can secretly relate. I will stop here before I lose my loyal readers, and friends for that matter.  You know me and love me and I am emotional. Period. The End.

I have officially turned in my cookie order sheet today!!  Yahoo.  Thank you to all my amazing friends and family who ordered cookies from me (aka Shayna). We sold 115 boxes!!  So proud of myself.. lol.. BUT I am making her deliver and collect the money for each one.  Listen people, it was so much easier to send an email out then schlep around in this crazy winter weather we have been having.  Who on earth thought of selling girl scout cookies supposedly "door-to-door" in the middle of winter?  Obviously someone in Florida or Hawaii or somewhere consistently warm like that.   Not here.  Not now.  Not me.

Alright peeps, bedtime is slowly creeping upon me.  Adios

Tales of Monday

I think I must have kicked my hubby 6 or 7 times last night for snoring.  I can't wait to get a few good night sleeps while he is MIA this week!!! 

Middle darling was up at 4:30 again with bad dreams. I hope this ends soon.  Because of this, I will not now, or ever report on how the potty training is going.  Feel free to use your imagination.

Had a lovely weekend. Hit our new fav hot spot again for din with the kids Sat night.  OMG, went out for coffee with a friend last night and she asked me what I did this weekend and I totally blanked.  How sad is that?  Like until just now.  I remembered we went with a few other families to Friday night Family Skate night at the local skating rink. So much fun.  I think that may become a monthly activity for us!  Note to self: text friend and tell her about Friday night.  My brain is so lame.

Hoping this week flies by as we are taking the big kids to Atlanta on Friday since they are out of school.  My oldest has been dying to go to the Coke museum (not sure why because I do not allow him to drink soda) and to the Aquarium.    I had planned on surprising my daughter by taking her to the American Girl store for tea, but for some unknown reason my lovely hubby TOLD HER over the weekend.  Of course I was not home and had no clue he had ruined my surprise until yesterday AM when she told me out of the blue that we are going to the AG store in Atlanta.  I asked her what she was talking about and she told me her Daddy told her.  Needless to say and to spare you all the grusome deets, I did not speak to him for a few hours yesterday. Not happy.  Not happy at all.

Little miss just came in to watch TV, but it is actually time to go downstairs and prepare for our day. Yay for snow make up days.  I mean, love MLK and what he stands for, but LOVE school too.

Tah tah for now

Thursday, January 13, 2011

Tales of school

Well, kids are going back to school today.  Albeit on a 2 hour delay.  Middle is excited to see her teachers and friends. Oldest would seriously be happy living the rest of his life on the couch playing video games.  Typical male.

Not much to report.  I had to get out of the house last night because I was starting to need some adult interaction.  Went to see "Country Strong".  Great movie.  Much better than the last movie I saw.  Def worth the $10. I love Gwyneth Paltrow.

Okay, off to pack lunches and backpacks.  I def didn't miss this routine.

Wednesday, January 12, 2011

Tales of Baking...and eating.. A LOT

Well, today is snow day #3 for us... kids home, super happy of course.  They have actually been on such great behavior now that I think of it.   Days like these it is great to have neighbors that have kids your kids age because since we are trapped at home, they can just go next door or down the street to get out of the house.  Keeps them content and active.  They went sledding on Day #1, but they too are over it, which is a good thing because it is all pure ice now.

I on the other hand can use a little getting out of the house.  I have done nothing but bake, which of course leads to eating. Ok, I lied, I am also taking these 3 days to attempt to potty train little miss sunshine, which has kept me quite busy I might add. Gosh, I totally have zero recollection of potty training contestants one and two. It so weird.  Must have blocked it out, sort of like childbirth, I suppose.   I would report to you how it is going, but I decided not to due to the fact that my mid was up again at 5:20 because she was scared of something.. again, jinxed myself out of her being an awesome sleeper.

Anyway, back to the eating. I baked pumpkin cake, chocolate peanut butter chex mix (which is long gone) and mondel bread (which I am eating right now with my tea).   In addition to that, I have made eggs for breakfast, and awesome homecooked dinners.  Gosh, I would be such a better housewife if I were trapped in my house my entire life.  Who knew how much free time I would have on my hands just hanging around here.  Done 4 loads of laundry, ran the dishwasher 4 times. Huh. Amazing how prodcutive one can be without carpool, bus pick ups, cheerleading, bball practice, girl scouts, etc..

The one thing I have totally loved about this whole trapped insideness is that I can pick up the phone and call any one of my local friends at any time and know that I will get a hold of them because they too are trapped at home.  Love it!   And have been taking advantage of it too :)

However, I think I am ready to get back to routine tomorrow, before I need to go shopping for new (bigger) clothes due to the endless eating that is going on here.

Off to contemplate what to bake today.... any suggestions??

Sunday, January 9, 2011

Tales of change

It only took a week or so, but I thought of another New Years resolution for myself.  I guess I figured since the first one is going so well (Sunday night dinners with Nanny) that I would try a second one. Before I tell you what it is, I will tell you that I am in a constant state of soul searching and trying to be the best person I am. The best person for ME and for my family.  Anyway, I ran across another mommy blog this AM and it was one of those where you keep reading faster and faster because she was saying exactly how I am feeling a lot of times.   It's called "Motherhood Uncensored" and a blog friend of mine suggested it to me when I started my blogging adventure. 

I know I am trying to get to the point.  So, today (or yesterdays post that I read today) was about how everyone always judges other people and jumps to conclusions about why they do the things they do and how wrong it is.  Again, I am super paraphrasing here.. one because I don't want to get in trouble for stealing her idea (does that happen in the blog world)?  and two because it was many hours ago that I read it and I only have a vague recollection of what she wrote.   If I remember recorrectly she used a fab example of how before you have kids you always say, I won't do this, or I won't say that, or I won't be that mom or blah blah blah, but then when you actually have kids a light bulb goes on in your head and makes you wish you could take back all false presumptions you made about your friends, or even about perfect strangers.   I hope it is legal to quote her and I am apologizing in advance if it is not, but she said "It takes one to know one" and that is SO freakin true.  Once you are walking in someones exact shoes you can then pass judgements on their life.  But until then, we all need to leave each other alone!!!!

Anyway, what I took away from it and how it relates to me and my resolution is this.  I am a people pleaser.  Yes, I am strong willed in many aspects, but I am also the friend who always says, what do you want to do tonight?  No, I don't care, you pick?  And typically go along with whatever even though I am secretly not happy inside.  Why, because I am scared to stand my ground sometimes. I don't want to get into petty arguments, so I swallow my pride and go along with it.  Ugg.. my son is the same way and I hate seeing it through him.  And I know I am using silly examples, but it goes deeper than that.  And so, if I am found in a situation where I really do have a strong opinion (because honestly a lot of the time I really just don't care) I am going to say how I feel from now on and stop inconveniencing myself just to keep the peace.  You are not me, I am not you, so you may not understand why I choose to or choose not to do something, but that is not my prob.  And so that is my resolution. 

Someone I used to be friendly with when my big kids were in preschool said something to me once that totally struck me, and still does years later.  I don't remember the exact context of the conversation, but I think it had to do with how sometimes you may see someone you know and they may not say hello, even though you know that they saw you. Again, this is YEARS later, so that may not have been what happened but it fits here so ok. Then you feel all badly that they didn't say anything to you, or "ignored you".  Her wise words about situations such as this was that sometimes its not about YOU, its about THEM. Its not always about YOU.  And she was actually talking about me. I think I was upset about some stupid situation. And it totally made sense.  I always just thought that it was about me.  Another example: she didn't come out with us  to see a movie.. ugg she must not want to be with me.  Selfish?  Maybe. Insecure, Maybe?  Um, how about she just didn't want to go out that night and that it had nothing to do with you. I have learned a lot since that conversation, but I still find myself reflecting back to that conversation.  You just never know what someone is thinking or feeling or going through and sometimes (even though you think it does) it has nothing to do with YOU.

Sheesh.. this is getting long (as my hubby just said) and I prob totally went on a tangent, but to wrap it up here, reading that blog this AM made my mind spin about all this stuff and I wanted to share it with you.  And, I reccomend you take a look at her post (http://motherhooduncensored.typepad.com/) because I doubt I did it much justice. But I thank her, whoever she is for the inspiration for my blog today!

P.S.   My hubby just read this and said it was all over the place.. so sorry but I had a lot to say on this topic. Hope you people with estrogen can follow it better than he did (or didn't).

Saturday, January 8, 2011

Tales of family time

This weekend has been the ultimate family weekend for us!  I guess since we were away and then hubby was away all last week we are all now catching up on spending time together. Took the kids to pizza tonight, again just the 5 of us.  I must say, it is a rarity for us to eat out two weekend nights in a row with the kids and no one else.  Thank goodness we instituted the Sunday night dinner with Nanny rule so tomorrow night we can change it up a bit!!!

OMG. Had so much fun at my sons bball game today.  It was his first, and I think he actually may have touched the ball a handful of times.  He is more of an individual sport kind of kid. Baseball, swimming, etc..  something where he always has to have "his turn". The whole running around in a pack of kids not so good for him.  He just hangs towards the background... always going in the right direction, but never wanting to get close enough to make impact.  Was the same for soccer. As the story goes, my hubby was quite similiar, if not worse.

The most fun part for me was watching the little 1st and 2nd grade cheerleaders.  They were so freakin adorable.  I tried to beg my mid to sign up for it, but she declined.. numerous times.  She does cheerleading at a sporting facility, but I think bball cheerleading would be so much more fun for her, and for me!  Those girls are to die for in their tiny uniforms with their hair in bows.  Needless to say, my mid stared and watched every single move they made the entire hour.  She even memorized some of the cheers and was chanting them in her head at times. I am hoping that this means she will be interested in it next year.  I can wait.

It is 7:17, older two in bed.  Fast asleep.. I hope.  Everyone was up WAY to early this morn. Babygirl is in our bed watching Mickey Mouse (shocker). She had a giant nap today, so has a few extra min before bedtime tonight.  I am in jammies and ready myself.  Gonna try to watch a movie with the hub, but can tell I may not even last through the credits.

Wishing myself a later than 5 AM wake up call tomorrow.

Tales of dawn

Why is it that I am always up before the dawn?  Mid came in room at 2 with a nightmare.. which of course is still all my fault as she had NEVER ever EVER done this until the day I gave her such kudos for sleeping.  Baby girl crying started at 5. Oldest entered our room at 5:35.  While I would never trade my kids for the world, I possibly could be talked into trading them for better sleepers. Perhaps.

Just plopped babygirl in our bed.  She turns to me and says "What do you want to do in here now?".  Umm. actually I'd like to be sleeping in here now, but I am thinking that is not what you want to be doing darling girl so why don't you just tell me what YOU want to do in here now. I swear she has the language of a teenager.
Had a great Friday night family dinner (just the 5 of us) at The Cowfish last night.  That place totally rocks!  We love it.  Kids love it. Has something for everyone. It is really an amazing concept.  They serve burgers and sushi. To my non sushi eating but burger loving friend- I will be dragging you there with me ASAP.

Looking forward to my sons first basketball game today.  He is nervous because they told them there are going to be "real judges" there making sure they are playing correctly.  Seriously dude, can't you just let my son have fun?  Sheesh!!!!!!!

Hmmmmm, what else?  My friend Kim does NOT have cancer!!  Yippy!  What great news that was.  Oh, speaking of cancer, I am doing the AVON breast cancer walk again this year.  The two day (40) mile walk.  I am so excited. Anyone want to join in the walk?  Or make a donation??  Let me know!

Must go downstairs now and attend to the little people.

Thursday, January 6, 2011

Tales of a teenager

SO, I got a new necklace today.  Actually, I ordered it before the Holidays and it just arrived in todays mail.  Of course I am wearing it already because that is how I am with every new thing I get.

2 1/2 year old wakes up from her nap.  Pick her up.  Throw her on my hip.  Instantly she noticed my new jewerly and said, "I love your new necklace mommy", "It's bootiful", "My wear it?"  Seriously, I am going to have to watch my clothes and jewels when my girls turn 13.  And by jewels I mean this $20 necklace I just ordered (have  mentioned I am slightly obsessed with my children) that has their 3 names written on it.

Hands off little sister!

Tales of me

I know, I know, I haven't been keeping up with the blog this week.  Just one thing I want you all to remember is that I started this blog for me.  I know and appreciate so much that you love it and look forward to it, but this is my catharsis of lifes daily nonsense and some days I may not post.  It defeats the purpose of this for me to feel like I "have" to post everyday. Besides, its fun to keep you all anticipating if/when I will write again.

Moving on.

Thank goodness it is already Thursday.  What a long week it has been.  Yesterday I seriously ate myself into oblivion.  Ever have one of those days that by 1:45 in the afternoon you have successfully managed to imbibe at least one days worth of your caloric daily requirement?   Um, yeah. That was me.  It was super cold outside.  Like the kind of cold that you just cannot warm up even in your own house.  Seriously, my fingertips were on/off numb all day. So, what did I do?  I did what anyone in my situation would have done and  parked myself in the pantry most of the day.  Gosh,  I think my 2 year old is rubbing off on me some.

Hubby talked to kids for a few last night for the 1st time since he left.  I always like to call right before I say "Its time to go upstairs for bedtime routine", just so he can remind them to be good listeners for me and not to give me a hard time.  Cuz honestly, by the that time I have been up for 13 hours and am done. Like really done.  One and a half more days of single mommyhood to go. I think I can, I think I can.

Speaking of catharsis.  I had such a freakin good cry yesterday.  OMG.  sometimes you just need to let it all out and you feel soooooooooooooooooo much better.   Like all of us, I try to be the best person I can be and some days you win and some days you lose.  Life is one giant learving curve, right?

Before I go, I just want my good friend Kim to know that I am thinking of her today.  Sending good and warm thoughts.  I am so sincere when I say that all that really and truly matters in life is your (and your loved ones) health, because we have no control over that at times.  The rest should just fall easily into place. Its a hard thing to step back and just let life flow, but at the end of the day if you know in your heart you are a good person, nothing else should matter.  

Wednesday, January 5, 2011

Tales of ....

Do they sell muzzles for cats?  How about for kids under the age of 3?  If so, can someone overnight them both to me?  Thanks.

Tuesday, January 4, 2011

Tales of De ja vu

It started at 4:42 and lasted until 6:24. Ugggggggggggggggggg she's back!!!!  I am going to chalk it up to the fact that we were away and she is just getting resettled in.  But, I am not happy this AM.  She cried and screamed at the top of her lungs that she didn't want to go back to sleep in her crib.  Woke up my mid at 5:30.  Gonna be a long day.

Dear anyone that encounters me today,

Beware!

love,
me

Sunday, January 2, 2011

Tales of nite-nite

Oh how quickly my body has adjusted back to wanting to go to sleep at 8 PM. I suppose that was due to the 5:10 wake up call of my cat pouncing on my head.

Had a nice quiet family day.  My mid (who missed me more than life itself and wanted to be with me all day today without a second apart) got invited to one of her bestest friends houses and jumped on the chance.  Ahh, I guess she really likes the idea of me being around more than me actually being around, huh?  Nah.. I totally get it.  She just loves the comfort of me. The mom.  I am the same way with my mom.  Which is why I spent the afternoon with her after being ditched by my offspring. And yes, my New Year's resolution is off to a good start!  Sushi tonight with Nanny and the fam.  One Sunday night down, 51 to go!

I rocked my baby girl to sleep tonight.. and held her a little longer after our singing repitore. I just stroked her hair and smelled her face and looked into her beautiful eyes. Gosh how I missed her.  Gosh how I will miss her as she gets bigger and can no longer fit on my lap in the rocking chair. Sigh. Life is going too fast.  Way too fast. Can't believe I already have to pack lunches and backpacks again tomorrow.  Soon it will be time to wake up.  Guess that means it is time for bed.

Saturday, January 1, 2011

Tales of bliss

Just hopped into bed after kissing each of my babies in their sleep.  Ahhh, so good to see their tiny faces and smell their warm yummy skin.  But what a fantastic vacation we had!  Wow!  It was so worth all the mind games I was playing on myself prior to our departure.  My body feels so tired, but yet it is actually just in this complete state of relaxation.. a state that it has not seen in years!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 

The weather was amazing.  The resort was lovely, the food delish and the company could not have been any better!  What a fantastic way to ring in the New Year.  Played some tennis, drank some drinks, rode a horse on the beach (ok, not my most fav moment), laid by the pool and just chilled out.  I actually read an entire book.  Interesting one.  Decent. Called, "The Little Bee". Heard of it?   Many thanks to my darling hubby for working hard enough every day to make this trip possible for us.  Many thanks to my mom and my sitter for taking such great care of my little miracles... I mean such great care that I had not a single worry about them. And many thanks to our "just neighbors". The first annual holiday trip was a success.  Next stop: Turks and Caicos.

Kitty just climbed on me. Apparently he missed me much too.  Gotta say, I am not a medicine taker.  I have a super high pain tolerance... always have and hopefully always will.  I am the kind of gal who waits til she can no longer stand being sick or achey before taking anything, so getting a prescription for our flight was a HUGE step for me.  I even debated forgoing the drugs. But the giant heartache and knot in my stomach last weekend lead me to pop the pill as soon as we arrived in the airport Tues AM.  And let me just say, flying on drugs is such a wonderful experience.  Mind you, I only took half of the Xanax prescribed to me, as I did not want to completely pass out on day one of our trip, but I really was so relaxed and could have cared less that we were in the air.  Could have cared less when the pilot came on and said we were going to experience turburlance for the remainder of the flight.  I did not quiz my hubby every 5 seconds during our final descent how many more minutes until we land. It was such a glorious event.  And not to sugar coat it, but we both got upgraded to first class.  He because he is a "chairman" whatever that means.  And I, I got upgraded because the lady at the check in desk saw a first class seat open next to my hubby and wanted me to have the seat.  Why you ask?  I will tell you.  She is a smart woman.  She said, "I realize that your husband is a chairman, and you are a chairmans wife.  So that means we see your husband more than you do".  Wow, she understands.  The lovely reddish-brown haired ticket agent totally gets it.  The simple fact that the love of my life is a "preferrred flier" lead to her believe that I am, well.. that I am what I have been desperately trying to share with all of you.  I am a married single mom.  And I truly wouldn't have it any other way.

Happy 2011 my friends.